Saturday, July 24, 2010

missing Chance...

It's been almost 6 weeks since our cat Chance died, and we still miss him terribly. He was 16 years old, totally sweet and fun and loving, and completely spoiled.

We've talked about the possibility of getting another cat or two at some point, but it doesn't feel like the right time yet. Not only do we miss Chance because of missing him and his wonderful, loving presence, but these past weeks have also seemed strange because this is the first time in over 20 years of marriage that we haven't had any animals. It makes the house seem... odd, and even a bit unfamiliar in some way.

Making the jewelry and working on the etsy shop have helped keep me busy during this time of grieving and adjusting. I've needed something to do, something to focus on, and this has been a big help. I can lose myself to looking through my gemstones and charms and findings, deciding what to put together next, working out a design or a theme if it's going to be that kind of piece.

It's been therapeutic.

One of the other things to help during this time has been aromatherapy. Many, many days I have used oils or blends - either in an oil burner or aromalamp, or in a carrier oil to use for a soothing massage - to help with my emotions. I've reached for oils such as cypress, sweet marjoram, lavender, bergamot, or orange to help with grief. Lemon, grapefruit, petitgrain, melissa, roman chamomile, peppermint, and juniperberry are others that I've found especially helpful during this time. Marge Clark at the wonderful Nature's Gift Aromatherapy has some great synergies for emotions, and I've found them helpful and effective, not only in dealing with this particular situation but in several areas of my life. (I'm not affiliated with that company in any way... I'm just a very satisfied customer).

Reiki has also helped me a great deal during these past weeks. Whether I'm doing a self-treatment or seeing another Reiki practitioner for a session, the healing energy has been in aid in soothing the grief and making my way through this time of adjustment and transition.

Other things have helped too, but I'll stop for now before this becomes too very long.

Loss... of animals, people, jobs, friendships, dreams... is hard. When you're dealing with grief and loss in your own life, I hope you'll find your way to whatever helps ease the pain and soothe your soul

Thank you for visiting. ♥


  1. Nice to catch up with you!

    Agreed, the house is certainly not the same without our furry friends around. :-(

    I'm glad to see that you're doing well and that you're finding things to keep you grounded.



  2. So sorry for your loss. I've been through that and I know how hard it is.

    I also find that making jewelry helps to de-stress and feels really relaxing to me. Congratulations on your new blog!

  3. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your kitty. They are like family, like children... ♥

    We lost a very special kitty of our own about a year ago, and decided to get a new cat a few weeks later. I wasn't ready for it at first, but the humane society was having a half off sale for cats {haha} and my husband was hoping we'd adopt a new one before the sale was over. Practical as he hardly ever is.

    At first it was tough, I didn't want to feel like we were simply replacing our recently lost kitty, but there was always room for more love in our hearts, and our new girl Posey needed a good home. She has been a blessing to us, and has fit perfectly with our family of two dogs.

    Whenever you feel ready, you'll know... and when you go to find a new little friend to love... let them pick you. ♥